It’s normal for kids between the ages of one and three to throw a few temper tantrums. How you react to them will determine if they continue.
Kids usually throw a temper tantrum to get what they want. As difficult as it may be, you will have to fight the urge to give in to their demands. Instead, use a few of these guidelines for taming your child’s temper tantrums.
Taming Your Child’s Temper Tantrums Effectively
- Understand your child’s disposition. Is your child more spirited? Does he have a difficult time dealing with frustrating occurrences? If so, make sure he gets plenty of sleep. Ready your child for upcoming activities. Schedule some more relaxed activities after he has participated in some vigorous ones. Gradually calm him down.
- Handle your own temperament. If your child sees you “flying off the handle” when you become frustrated, he may mimic your behavior.
- Be aware of any signs that a temper tantrum may be coming. Is there a certain body posture your child usually exhibits right before he throws a temper tantrum? Can you distract him in some way or ward off what may be coming? Change the subject; set a reasonable challenge; do a different activity.
- Don’t expect your young child to sit for long periods of time in a restaurant or in a shopping cart. Placing unrealistic demands on your child could trigger a temper tantrum. Ensure your expectations are within their capabilities.
- Understand what the most common causes of your child’s temper tantrums are, such as: hunger; stressed home environment; stressed parents; seeking independence; overstimulation; illness; boredom; being strong-willed; inability to express feelings; trying to get attention; change in schedule; not a lot of choices; stressed; or, tired.
- Don’t spank, hit, or yell at your child if he does have a tantrum. Try to sooth him. In fact, kneeling down so he can see your face and quietly talking about the situation can be effective in calming him.
- Empathize with your child, “Dan, you are acting like you are tired? Are you?” Help your child understand the cause of his behavior to help him control his feelings.
- If you have a child who is over three-years-old and about to have a temper tantrum, give him a warning. “Stop screaming and hitting me or we will not go to the playground.” If the bad behavior continues, you have to be strict and enforce the consequences.
- Help your child express his feeling by using words such as “angry”, “tired”, or “sad” to describe everyday situations. You’ll see that in time, your child will use these words to tell you how he is feeling instead of throwing a temper tantrum.
Taming your child’s temper tantrums can be challenging. Following these effective guidelines will make your life easier as a parent and pave the way for your child to control his feelings in life.
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