Are you unknowingly exacerbating your child’s anxiety? Sometimes it’s hard to mask a worry and your child will pick up on it. However, there are ways to prevent your fears from affecting your child. Focus on eliminating these 6 child-anxiety-provoking taboos.
Say Goodbye to These 6 Child-Anxiety-Provoking Taboos
1. Getting Upset About a Problem
Don’t fall apart over problems you are experiencing at home or work in front of your children. Kids need to know that everything doesn’t always go as planned. Don’t shield them from stressful situations. Show them healthy ways of problem-solving instead of falling apart over matters that are troubling you.
2. Asking Negative-based Questions
If you are nervous about how your child will do in a game or competition, don’t ask, “Are you nervous about Saturday’s game?” Ask a more neutral question like, “How are you feeling about your game on Saturday?” Let your child’s emotions lead the conversation. If you exude a calm, and confident manner, it will transfer to your child.
3. Not Scheduling Any Relaxing Down-Time Together
Show your child that relaxing can be a healthy stress-buster. Spend some quality time with your child watching a movie, reading his favorite book, engaging in silly play, spending some relaxing time on the beach, or taking a walk in a park.
4. Forgetting to Reward Your Child’s Brave Behaviors
When your child faces his fears, reward him with praise or a hug, or even something like a sticker or small treat. Rewarding positive behaviors will encourage your child to repeat them.
5. Negating Your Child’s Fears and Anxieties
If your child expresses anxiety about a situation, don’t “pooh pooh” it. Acknowledge that you can tell he is afraid and discuss why he is feeling that way and what he can do to allay his fears. Practice some relaxation techniques like deep, slow breathing exercises or help him imagine he is on a calm beach listening to the waves and the seagulls.
6. Not Encouraging Good Sleep Habits
As we’ve stressed in past posts, it’s important for your child’s overall health to have a steady sleep schedule even on the weekends. Establish a regular routine that helps transition your child from the activities of the day to a more relaxed mood so he can fall asleep. Reading aloud to your child will not only get him in a calmer mood but will also foster his language development skills.
It’s important for your child to know that natural anxiety is a part of life and that there are healthy ways to cope with it. Remember that your child will mimic your problem-solving behavior. Eliminating these 6 child-anxiety-provoking taboos will pave the way for your child to handle anxiety and stress so it doesn’t negatively impact his lifestyle.
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